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Against the backdrop of the Boston Marathon bombings, the spiraling
violence in Syria and the continuing conflict along the Israel-Palestine
fault line, a group of 28 women (mostly Christian with a scattering of
Muslims) from Bethlehem, Palestine, made a pilgrimage on April 23 to
meet with a group of Muslim, Christian, Jewish and Druze Israeli women
in the city of Acco during a four-day visit in northern Israel.
"I was surprised," said Huda Salem, a Muslim social worker from
Bethlehem in a telephone interview after her visit. "We always think
that Jews think we're only terrorists, but they think differently than
what we see on TV."
The women's visit -- a combination of hopeful interchanges and
seemingly intractable differences -- was sponsored by the Golda Meir
Mount Carmel International Training Center in Haifa. Since 1995, the
Center has welcomed more than 1,000 Palestinian women to meet with their
Israeli counterparts for what the Center's leaders describe as
"intensive days of debate, discussion, soul-searching and friendship
"The women don't have to agree," said Bracha Steiner, the Social and
Cultural Coordinator at the Center. "But there is a willingness to do
At the Community Center in Acco, funded in part by the Middle East
Partnership Initiative (MEPI), the Bethlehem contingent met with Dr.
Janan Faraj-Falah, an effervescently optimistic Druze woman who is a
professor of Gender Studies at Haifa Teachers' College and leader of a
volunteer women's group in Acco that includes Christian, Muslim, Jewish
women and Druze women. The 30 or so members of Faraj-Falah's Acco Vision
work together to forge connections among the 40,000 residents of the
coastal city. The group has held city-wide student writing contests in
Arabic and Hebrew, festivals for Jewish and Arab artists and has even
built a peace playground in the city.
"I'm very satisfied with this visit," said Faraj-Falah. "If not, I wouldn't spend so much time organizing these events."
The women, coming from in and around Bethlehem, were pulled together
by a one-woman powerhouse, Antoinette Knesevitch, a 78-year-old
Christian and resident of Bethlehem who remains tireless in her efforts
to have women in Israel and Palestine connect with one another. The
distance between Bethlehem and Acco is about 113 miles, yet most of the
women have never had the chance to meet one another. "Women can change
the idea that we can't live together," said Knesevitch. "Because we
In Acco, after the obligatory Middle East welcome of fresh loquats,
oranges, pastries and drinks, the women divided into small groups to
bring the discussion about peace down to a common denominator. Sort of
like macro-economics crunched into micro, the women were asked to look
at violence in their daily lives. What do they do to stop violence among
children, neighbors, spouses and friends?
The atmosphere was friendly and cordial with occasional tense drifts into politics.
During one small group's discussion, for example, a Palestinian woman
said that she wants to help people who still carry keys to their houses
in Israel -- which they left during the Israeli War of Independence in
1948 -- and "they're waiting to go back to them."
"If you're waiting to take back your houses then your goal isn't peace," countered a Jewish woman. "My family was thrown out of Egypt in 1948. They can't go back to their houses there, either."
The inevitable impasse.
The women's words hung in the air until the group moderator moved the
discussion to safer ground: violence between husbands and wives. That
was one subject about which all the women could agree. Huda Salem, the
social worker from Bethlehem, deals with domestic violence in her work
in a Palestinian refugee camp outside of Bethelem. "We counsel men that
it's better to talk to their wives than to hit them," Salem said.
While the women's encounters have not yet changed governmental
policies or even activities on the ground, and some might argue that
rubbing shoulders and making nice to one another does not accomplish
much, both guests and hosts seemed outwardly content in one another's
company, even if it was only to make small talk about children, husbands
"One part of me says that these kind of meetings don't accomplish
anything," said Yael Goldenberg, a Jewish participant who lives near
Acco. "But then again, it's better to do something than nothing at all."